January 17th is Ditch Your Resolutions Day but this year I decided to ditch new years resolutions altogether. Let me tell you why.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock you have likely heard everyone everywhere talking goals, resolutions, and new me crap. I’d like to say I’m not one of them but… I am. I love setting goals. Is that weird? Also, I am one of those people that believes in the healing energy and power of a new me mindset but that’s a story for another time. I met a lot of setbacks in 2018 so I was ready for it to be over. I am thrilled with a start of a new year, even if I am the same old me.

That’s why I’m starting 2019 fresh.  Then again, I think I said that last year too but who’s keeping track. That’s what’s great about life, every year is a new start. Every day is a new start. Every change is a new beginning.  But before I get too cheesy down a road of cliches and rainbows, I will just say this. I believe as long as you are making progress toward the things you want and who you want to be. You are doing just fine. 

My only goal or “resolution” this year is a commitment to being a little closer to that ideal best version of myself I want to be and a little closer to the goals, dreams, passions that I have.

So pop the bubbly and let’s celebrate to a new year, whatever that may mean to you.

Here are my reflections of 2018:

I am stronger than I’ve ever been and ever known I can be. 

I am resilient.

I am okay alone. I don’t need someone else to complete me. 

The past is the past.  It’s over and an entirely different time/life ago. Let go.

Stop looking back and start looking forward.  

I can have anything I want to work for.

I am too much for someone who feels like they are not enough. 

I am who I am.  Take it or leave it.  

I want and need to be around like-minded people.  I thrive on connection with things and people that fill my soul.

For 2019 I want to be:

Focused on the life I want and do something everyday to work toward it.

I will say no to what no longer fills me.

I will no longer hold on to the past.

I forgive those who have hurt me and released them from my mind.  

I will have good sex with people that deserve me. 

I will communicate and respect my feelings. 

I will spoil myself with love. 

I will respect others opinions but not allow them to control how I feel about myself.

I will not compare myself or my timeline to others or my past. 

I will spend less time worrying about others and  more time building a life I want and love. 

The big take away? This year make only one commitment. Commit to doing one thing every day that moves you a little closer to a life you love.

The biggest lesson I’ve learned the last year is that whether big or small, progress is progress.  

I’m not where I was last year this time and I’m def not where I was the year before that.  In fact, quite the opposite, things have only been getting better and better. For the first time in life, I’m doing better than I ever have.

I have realized that time is irrelevant.

Things I once thought important, not as much so. I learned that checking off goals and dreams on your life list in any order is more important than my personal timeline. Last year I focused on the intentional healing of a wound and sitting here now I can say with confidence that while that wound may not be completely healed, I have taken so many steps into the right direction and made so much progress that I have every reason to be proud of.  

Above all else, I learned that anything is possible and that everything really is going to be okay.

#newyearnewme